When it comes to romantic relationship, finding the person you have most in common with seems to be the most viable and popular trend. People are gravitated towards opposite sexes of the same characteristics, from hobbies to social preference and even when it comes to the level of self esteem.

There have been several clinical studies that have shown that humans on a subconscious level tend to associate easier with others who have a similar self esteem level. Confident people prefer mates with the same drive and presence as with timid subjects who showed more predispositions to a mate exhibiting the same social tendency.

However true this is, self esteem association in romantic relationships might not hold truth for every relationship out there. There are opposite manifestations to the statement. For example, a significant percentage of women with low self esteem will seek the comfort of a strong and confident man because of a desire for security and protection that the kind of relationship will provide.

Strong willed individuals also find attraction to timid and shy natured personas; the fascination to unlock the person’s inner inhibitions and their will to dominate can be fulfilled in this kind of romance.

Although this doesn’t happen as often as the latter, physical attraction can be a driving factor as to why a confident and willed candidate may find a connection to an otherwise demure person. In these situations, self esteem plays a vital role in the cultivation and failure of relationship persona “mismatches”.

More often than not, a clash in self esteem will result in the failure of the relationship especially if one person cannot keep up with the impulses and behavioral patterns of the other person. This normally happens when an emotionally confident individual falls for someone less emotionally active.

For low personality types who find strong attraction to confident mates, the results could be transforming; gaining a positive effect by boosting the self worth and confidence of the person.